The September Issue // Friendships & Family // Make Friends Not Frenemies
Make Friends Not Frenemies
Written By: Amanda Farah
You’re stoked about your new boyfriend, but your friendships shouldn’t suffer at the hands of romance. Here are a few simple ways to make time for your friends (and not make them frien'emies - you know, friend enemies).
1. Have a regular girls’ night out: no boyfriends, no drama. Get dinner, get drinks, and get caught up on each others’ lives. Or designate a weekly girls-only activity together, whether it’s shopping, yoga, or catching a chick flick.
2. Face-time - not FaceBOOK time. Writing on your friend’s Facebook wall isn’t enough. Block out some time each week to pick up the phone for a quick catch-up, or call when you’re doing a chore that doesn’t require your full attention. Just make sure you’re really listening when she’s talking.
3. Double-Date it! You don’t want to bring your boyfriend along to your girls’ night out any more than you want to bring your friend on a romantic trip. But if you’re just grabbing dinner or have a day out you think your gal pal would be interested in, invite her along! If you’ve got any coupled-up friends, go for a double date; the guys can get to know each other, and you can get to know your friend’s guy.
How do you make time for your friends? Have you ever been dumped by a girl?
i really love hanging around with my best friend but the thing is that my best friend brother is my boyfriend && is really hard to be with both of them at the same time cuz i really love them i try being the 3 of us but ... morei really love hanging around with my best friend but the thing is that my best friend brother is my boyfriend && is really hard to be with both of them at the same time cuz i really love them i try being the 3 of us but it didnt work at all i dont know what to do tyra i need your help fast plz cuz i dont want to lose both of them :[
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i make it a point to go out with my friends.. i always say to them that i always here for them...
i did have a friend well i thought i did but one min she's cool and the next she's mad our kids are close but i can't stand fake all she do is talk bout her promble bout her husband not spending time wit her etc.sorry bo ... morei did have a friend well i thought i did but one min she's cool and the next she's mad our kids are close but i can't stand fake all she do is talk bout her promble
bout her husband not spending time wit her etc.sorry boo but my husband helps me wit the kids, cook, and clean. promble explains why she acts the way she do
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I always make sure that I have time to hang with my friends. No matter what I always put a side some time for my friends. Because everyone need to hang with your girl friends and just have some fun. Resently my girl dump ... moreI always make sure that I have time to hang with my friends. No matter what I always put a side some time for my friends. Because everyone need to hang with your girl friends and just have some fun. Resently my girl dumped me for hanging out with my other bestfriend. Because she felt like I had dumped her, and it was for one day, and she ment that I should only be friends with her and no one else. But I can't have one friend and I have to deside who I wanna be with. She should ask me before she say anything to anyone about who I'm with or what I'm doing! =)
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just yesterday my bestiiee made me live the house when my mom wasnt at i felt guilty but i told my mom as soon as i got home cause my sis
as a photographer,had plans for a photo shoot with friends and one of my girl friends suggested the venue. only for me to call her and she tells me that she would not be able to make it 'cos I'll be using my other friend ... moreas a photographer,had plans for a photo shoot with friends and one of my girl friends suggested the venue. only for me to call her and she tells me that she would not be able to make it 'cos I'll be using my other friend as model for the photo shoot so she doesn't see any reason to come ! i was really MA-AD still am mad at her
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My problem is kinda personal...........I cant make any friends nd i feel so lonely most of the time...all i do is collect pictures of rihanna.My mum is so difficult to talk to nd i cant share my problems wit ani one.I th ... moreMy problem is kinda personal...........I cant make any friends nd i feel so lonely most of the time...all i do is collect pictures of rihanna.My mum is so difficult to talk to nd i cant share my problems wit ani one.I thot joining faceook wud help bt its getting worse...i m so lonely please i really nid some people to tok to.
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I'm stuck. FOr some reason I don't have many g'friends, mainly because I'm more comfortable with men (which my fiance is okay with). I think I'm stuck in this rut because I moved from South Africa to America at 14 and ... moreI'm stuck. FOr some reason I don't have many g'friends, mainly because I'm more comfortable with men (which my fiance is okay with). I think I'm stuck in this rut because I moved from South Africa to America at 14 and had to say goodbye to life long friends andin a way stopped having close relationships with women becuase I don't want to have to let them go again. Thanks for this article and I will make it more of a priority to have more g'friends.
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this is my fav ! :) this way, we keep in touch with our friends and have time for the boyfriend! ;)
friendship needs commitment above all things. its not always about the good times, boyfriend's talks and hanging out, but the beauty of above it all that is important.
NO I HAVE NOT TYRA BUT I TRY TO HAVE GIRL FRIENDS IT DONT SEEM TO WORK OUT WITH ME IM THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT DOES NOT LIKE DRAMA OR THAT HE SAY SHE SAY CRAP SO I STAY AWAY
In this world no man is an Island is the phrase that people used most time which is true. I cherish my friends very much, however, one has to chose ther friends carefully because some friends only think of keeping progre ... moreIn this world no man is an Island is the phrase that people used most time which is true. I cherish my friends very much, however, one has to chose ther friends carefully because some friends only think of keeping progress from you in a disguised way. I always try to please but some times some of them he i thaught was my friend , take diadvantage of a good situation.. I have been dumpt by a girl which affected me for some time. She had a motive and her motive was to use me to get her real boy friend jelous in the process. I have not had a intimate friend from that time to current. I have pas
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i love my girls and when possible spend time with them wheather its talkling on the phone or meeting up(which i prefer). but sometimes i get tired of putting the most effort and its really difficult to meet up because al ... morei love my girls and when possible spend time with them wheather its talkling on the phone or meeting up(which i prefer). but sometimes i get tired of putting the most effort and its really difficult to meet up because all my true friends are carless. what can i do i miss hanging out with my girls minus the kids?
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i have been dating this guy for about 9 months now. me and him actually use to go out and even with my friends, but ever since we started fighting we don't hang out with my friends he judges them, he doesnt like any of t ... morei have been dating this guy for about 9 months now. me and him actually use to go out and even with my friends, but ever since we started fighting we don't hang out with my friends he judges them, he doesnt like any of them. i dont talk to anyone anymore but him.. when i went to the mall some guy from school said hi to me he flipped out. it was bad.. and we just don't really go out. and honestley im kinda afraid to. And i even keep my phone on silent when were together.
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I have great friends and they are real. How do you help a friend that really needs it, nut they won't listen to anyone. I am very worried and need help raising one of my friends up
I watch the show everyday but I must say that I am a HUGE fan of Andrew Trees.... I am in love with his surveys and his advice
Well, i dont have problems with my girls when i am with my boyfriend but i did had problems in the past with my friends ..i cant trust girls easily ...to be honest i cant trust girls at all..i love to give a lot but ... moreWell, i dont have problems with my girls when i am with my boyfriend but i did had problems in the past with my friends ..i cant trust girls easily ...to be honest i cant trust girls at all..i love to give a lot but in the past one girl who i considered as a friend of mine tried to "stole" my boyfriend and that was horrible because i was the last to know!!now i try to keep a distance but i am afraid that someone even one of my friends will try to get into my love life.
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Yes they were mad cause I had a bother friend. I have sleep overs and girls day out.
This is true, i no i am young but i was with a guy for a year, but i lost so many friends. I used to only text them or facebook them, and now i broken up with him:( but at least i got my girls back =D xxx
I love my girl friends. ;) sometimes you just need another female;s persepective on life.