The July Issue // Your Love Life // Healing Heartbreak: From Hate to Love
Healing Heartbreak: From Hate To Love
We know, we know....you thought you loved him and that he was the ONLY one for you. You think there’s never going to be another guy that can fill the hole in your heart and no matter how hard you try, you don’t think you can ever love again (sounds like one of those old, sappy love songs your parents listened to in the 70s, right?)
Well, finish the box of Kleenex, pick up the shattered pieces, and move on. Many teens suffer from heartbreak, but there are things you can do to lift your spirits and make you feel fierce again!
1. Talk it out. Call your friends and have a girl’s night/cry-fest. Your friends know what you’re going through and will be a there to lend a shoulder to cry on.
2. Feeling a little vengeful? Get rid of the things that remind you of him. Put his picture on a dartboard for target practice. Rip up the “cutesy” couple’s pictures you took. *Note: this is only acceptable and fun to do one time!
3. Don’t compare your new guy to your ex! It’s natural to be attracted to a certain “type” of guy, but just because your new man is similar to your ex, it doesn’t mean he shares the same “bad” habits.
4. The best thing to do? Let time heal your broken heart. Sometimes all you can do is reflect on what went wrong and learn from it. Don’t build a wall around your heart– you might miss out on a new love!
--Kaitlynn Blyth
Have you had your heart broken? How did you get over it? Share your experience with the Inner Circle!
yes i've had my heart broken, an now im over it it took me a long time before i cud have but hey everything happens for a reason. i'm currently single an i enjoy being that way for the moment.
well i went out with this guy in high school and we hit it off so much that we been toghether since i was in 10th grade.so by the end of 12th grade i got pregnant by him.meanwhile i was pregnant he was cheating on me wit ... morewell i went out with this guy in high school and we hit it off so much that we been toghether since i was in 10th grade.so by the end of 12th grade i got pregnant by him.meanwhile i was pregnant he was cheating on me with his x and he even propuse to her.when i found out my heart felt apart and didnt know what to do.later he came back in to my life n i said no but he earn my love back by doing the right things.no he has changed alot and takes really good care of me and his son.so to the girls out there that thing that guys cant change well think again cuz they can.it just takes time!
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this is so true! i did think of taking a revenge on that bastard but as i read this article, i actually came to my senses. i've got to learn to let go and move on with my life. it takes time to heal a broken heart, true!
children involved and you have to interact with him for at least 21 years will suck so I hope we dont break up...hey a women can dream. b-loved b-out
I LOVE MY NEW GUY! :)) True, He's kinda similar to my ex ( ex as in, we didn't actually have "commitments" I preferably call it Fling, but it lasted for a year or so) They're similar 'coz, they're good friends in highsch ... moreI LOVE MY NEW GUY! :)) True, He's kinda similar to my ex ( ex as in, we didn't actually have "commitments" I preferably call it Fling, but it lasted for a year or so) They're similar 'coz, they're good friends in highschool (and now we're college.) This "new guy" turned out to have a secret crush on me when my ex and I we're still together. hahaha After we're kinda off, he confessed to me that he likes me. :))) He's sweet! I think he saved me from a monster. :)))
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Ways to heal: Stay in prayer,talk to family members, find friends online to chat with, cry privately, do positive things to keep mind off of heart ache and read christian books or bible.
i was talking to a guy for 2 months, we hit it off really well.. then i when to this party and had a bad time is was all so dramatic when i got back me and this guy had an argument about the party on the phone and after ... morei was talking to a guy for 2 months, we hit it off really well.. then i when to this party and had a bad time is was all so dramatic when i got back me and this guy had an argument about the party on the phone and after that he never spoke to me again i was heart broken and its a month later and im still hurting...:(
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For about five years ago I met a girl and it was love at first sight ^^ She said she loved me too but chose her boyfriend instead of me (of course) I've been devastated ever since, but then we started talking again about ... moreFor about five years ago I met a girl and it was love at first sight ^^ She said she loved me too but chose her boyfriend instead of me (of course) I've been devastated ever since, but then we started talking again about two months ago and I believed in us this time. But when I told her about my suicide attempt, she just stopped talking to me ...
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My boyfriend broke-up with me 6 months ago, i'm still trying to be happy... :(..it's so hard...
love is something serious n emotional that should not be played with... i went out with a guy for 7 months.. he seemed like the best at first.. thats wat made me fall 4 em but den... all we did waz fight.. not simple fig ... morelove is something serious n emotional that should not be played with... i went out with a guy for 7 months.. he seemed like the best at first.. thats wat made me fall 4 em but den... all we did waz fight.. not simple fights but he would start cursing n kalling me names. to be honest idk y i stayed w em,, he treated me so bad.. that is like he took over how i tout n made me feel like shit.. it got to the point were i koulnt take it anymore.. n in waz scared he would get even more violent. i guess it waz blind love... but now am happy i foung some1 who lones me for me..
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I have had my heart broken so many times, that right now I dont think I can let myself go down that road again. The first time understandable, he was a 13 year teenager and knew nothing about the feelings, and thanks to ... moreI have had my heart broken so many times, that right now I dont think I can let myself go down that road again. The first time understandable, he was a 13 year teenager and knew nothing about the feelings, and thanks to him I still hurt because of it. I talked to a close friend about it but I never really did let go...part of me wants an apology...yet I know I will never get it. But the last two times after the first, its practically my fault. I moved to fast and broke my heart by trying to win theres. I cant go down that road anymore...I want to love, just not like before.
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on my first break up that was las year. at first it really hurts so bad, but after being with my friends and listening to my fav. songs i really move on so fast specially when i think about Bobby V.!!!!
i've had a guy whom i really loved but we broke up (life happened).the only way i healed the broken heart is i moved on although it took me a while,but i told myself that i was not gonna subject myself to such.i knew i h ... morei've had a guy whom i really loved but we broke up (life happened).the only way i healed the broken heart is i moved on although it took me a while,but i told myself that i was not gonna subject myself to such.i knew i had to move on with my life sooner rather than later.so at the end thats exactly what i did.all thaks to my friends who helped me realise that i deserved better and was worth more than that.
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Hi Tyra & every1... I know how this feels coz a year ago I got my heart broken as well.A man I trusted so much but he didn't only break my heart but he disappointed me. I know he thought he had the best of me especially ... moreHi Tyra & every1... I know how this feels coz a year ago I got my heart broken as well.A man I trusted so much but he didn't only break my heart but he disappointed me. I know he thought he had the best of me especially when he thought he can take that ride I again I made sure that he never see me crying for him or down & out.But now I'm scared to be in a relationship coz I don't want to be hurt again.
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Hi im 15. Just last year I was dating a 21 year old. He was THEE one and I gave him my all. he even proposed, made baby names But once he was convinced in his own little mind i was pregnant he decieded to break into my h ... moreHi im 15. Just last year I was dating a 21 year old. He was THEE one and I gave him my all. he even proposed, made baby names But once he was convinced in his own little mind i was pregnant he decieded to break into my house and steal moms jewlery and more and leave me Never spoke to me again. well i was devastated he broke my heart. I still dont ever want to date again. but my hearts full All i need is God(: I just wanna say, all teen that have older men, be careful you never know what they are capable of. Im just lucky thats all that happend. and turn to God he will heal your heart.(:
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To me a heart that has been broken sometimes can get over it, but the feeling will allways be with you, because you can't erase your memory. Peace and Love kim.
well 3 months ago my bf broke up with mywe are both seniors and he dump me for a 9th grader kind of made me feel like trash and idk i still cant get him out my head i still love him suckz tho what should i do i really do ... morewell 3 months ago my bf broke up with mywe are both seniors and he dump me for a 9th grader kind of made me feel like trash and idk i still cant get him out my head i still love him suckz tho what should i do i really do want him out
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its hard to move on when Your heart is broken to many times by the same person and more when that person is your husband for ten years ...
Well im a 30 year old in a 16 year old's body is what my friends and family tell me. I dated a guy that was 5 years older than me, and after the first few months things started to change, we would talk as much and both h ... moreWell im a 30 year old in a 16 year old's body is what my friends and family tell me. I dated a guy that was 5 years older than me, and after the first few months things started to change, we would talk as much and both him and i were always busy. There was no sex involved. I called it off. It had gotten 2 the point where he didnt kno if he loved me anymore even before the breakup. Ive always constantly thought about being married 1 day and just livng this happy & successful life, im always waiting 2 meet someone new,im back and stronger than before. Ive made an effort to learn all that i cud
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i think i lost the love of my life...he was so good to me,was always there for me and it was my problems that broke us up..i just didnt like one thing and it was that female friend he had... now i lost him,i think about ... morei think i lost the love of my life...he was so good to me,was always there for me and it was my problems that broke us up..i just didnt like one thing and it was that female friend he had... now i lost him,i think about him all the time and his family still calls me til this day,so i think i could never get over or forget about him..
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